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The Crib Notes

Posted by spritzophrenia on July 29, 2010

FAQ: All the things you wanted to know about this site, and some you didn’t. Like my life and thinking, this page is a work in progress.

The most important bit is probably the

Comment Guidelines

I love comments from all perspectives, please don’t feel intimidated. You don’t have to be a super-intellectual or brilliant writer to contribute. I’m quite ok with “I don’t feel like this is true, but I’m not very good at explaining my reasons”. After all, that’s how I feel sometimes.

I hope Spritzophrenia can be a place where we leave our pride behind and sincerely listen to each other. I have to lead by example, of course, and I’m sure I’ll screw it up at times.

If something really pushes your buttons or makes you angry you might want to consider taking a few moments to breathe before commenting.

Play nice, children.


Glossary, Definitions and Suchlike

Most of the below deserve posts in their own right, but for now…

Offending Your Beliefs
I’m well aware that a non-adherent of a religion usually makes mistakes in emphasis, nuance and understanding when writing about it. My apologies for any factual errors I make. I feel uncomfortable criticising a spiritual path from the outside and I try to rely on those writing from the inside. I also acknowledge the large number of good, moral people in any worldview.

See also…

I’m far from an expert on everything. Nobody can be. I’ve done a lot of reading, and have a fair amount of personal experience of a very *few* religions. Please correct me and help me understand your worldview if I’ve got it wrong.

Sometimes I include atheism in the category of “religions”,”faiths” or “beliefs”. I don’t mean to insult anyone, it’s just simpler to write. Atheism is not a religion, and it pisses atheists off to hear that line. All I mean when I use the word in this context is “a perspective on life”, which can be grouped with other perspectives on life.

I call myself an “open agnostic”, a “friendly agnostic”, and a “woolly-headed intellectual lightweight without the balls to man up and be an atheist” 😉 Many agnostics are at the atheist end of the scale. I tend to float up and down the scale a little. That means sometimes I take seriously the idea there could be a spiritual reality. Sorry ’bout dat.

You’ll notice that sometimes I talk about “g0d”. That’s a zero in the middle there. I suppose it looks similar to the way some Jewish believers write G-d but that’s not why I do it. “God” is a concept that has so much baggage for so many people, including me. I’m trying to distance myself a little from any particular religion’s God, particularly the grumpy old man in the sky. If g0d exists she’s a truly wonderful being. g0d to me means a theistic god, and that’s about it.

What does this word mean? Anything you want it to, really. I suppose seeing I coined it you want to know what I mean by it.

Anything else that should go on this page?

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Why The Kendra Wilkinson Sex Tape Should Make You Angry

Posted by spritzophrenia on June 1, 2010

Friend Hazey linked me to this, and it adds useful comment to my last post. Warning, it describes sex acts.

Here’s the main point the article makes:

This isn’t a sex tape, really. It’s that thing we talk about that happens to our young women. That thing that we, as grown-ups, write about and research incessantly and condemn broadly, but don’t remember so vividly. It’s right here on video.

…It’s that space where young women have discovered and perfected their sexuality and its value, but haven’t yet figured out how it’s empowering. They just know that it’s something people want from them; it’s something people expect from them. Something young men expect from them; something, perhaps, that young men haven’t learned how to ask for politely. It’s uncomfortable and new and everybody’s learning, and what happens, more often than not, is that the male partner’s desires come first and more forcefully, and the young woman is disrespected and disempowered and left with a sense that she’s less valuable and less capable of demanding respect and control than her male counterpart – a sense than lingers into her twenties and beyond, even though she might not recognize it as such.

This isn’t rape – not even close. And Kendra’s not even unhappy the whole time. But you can tell who’s in charge; you can tell who’s in control. It’s made clear. Kendra’s requests are completely ignored; she’s totally disrespected here, naked and exposed.

Kendra Wilkinson Sex Tape

On a lighter note, today’s TFUL*: Vocal group covers “Battery” by Metallica.
* Today’s Fun Unrelated Link.

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